Jacksonville Public Library

How to raise an adult, break free of the overparenting trap and prepare your kid for success, Julie Lythcott-Haims

eng

Includes bibliographical references (pages 329-339) and index

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non fiction

How to raise an adult

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Julie Lythcott-Haims

break free of the overparenting trap and prepare your kid for success

Lythcott-Haims draws on research, conversations with educators and employers, and her own insights as a mother and student dean to highlight the ways in which over-parenting harms children and their stressed-out parents. She identifies types of helicopter parents and, while empathizing with parents' universal worries, offers practical alternative strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success. Relevant to parents of toddlers as well as of twentysomethings, this book is a rallying cry for those who wish to ensure that the next generation can take charge of their own lives with competence and confidence

Part 1: What we're doing now. Keeping them safe and sound ; Providing opportunity ; Being there for them ; Succumbing to the college admissions arms race ; To what end? -- Part 2: Why we must stop overparenting. Our kids lack basic life skills ; They've been psychologically harmed ; They're becoming "study drug" addicts ; We're hurting their job prospects ; Overparenting stresses us out, too ; The college admissions process is broken -- Part 3: Another way. The case for another way ; Give them unstructured time ; Teach life skills ; Teach them how to think ; Prepare them for hard work ; Let them chart their own path ; Normalize struggle ; Have a wider mind-set about colleges ; Listen to them -- Part 4: Daring to parent differently. Reclaim your self ; Be the parent you want to be

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